Sex Advice

Dear Dr. Locker: Is it true that all women need at least 30 minutes of foreplay before sex?

Answer from Dr. Locker

It’s a myth that all women need extensive foreplay. In fact, research has found that men and women both enjoy foreplay, but it’s not always required by either for amazing sex. How much foreplay do women need? It's all individual. Some women may want the 30 minutes of foreplay that you mentioned, but some may want an hour worth of foreplay, and others may want 3 minutes of foreplay. Ask her how much she likes or needs. Or experiment with giving her oodles of it sometimes, and not as much others. When you know she loves having you inside her and neither of you wants to waste any time getting you there, it’s okay to rush to the act. Yet you still might want a lot of foreplay when you need it to get hard, she needs it to get wetter, and often enough that you can still have all the amazing thrills that kissing, touching and oral sex can bring.

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