Sex Advice

Dear Dr. Locker: How can I learn to talk dirty for my partner?

Answer from Dr. Locker

If you know that your partner loves sexy talk, and you want to give it a try, the first technique to try is basically using slang or “dirty” words to explain what you’re doing, or what the other person is doing, or what you want to be doing, or what you want to have done to you. Use a variety of erotic terms. You can even prepare for talking dirty by making lists of all the slang synonyms for sexual sayings and body parts and memorizing them. That way, if your lover wants you to talk dirty during sex, you’ll have all sorts of colorful expressions on hand. See how many different and daring ways you can say, “I’d like to have intercourse.”

Also, consider using sounds to add to the excitement. Vary the way you moan, grunt, or scream during sex. Try making a slow, deep, guttural moan, or a loud shriek. Do whatever you and your partner think is sexy. If you want your words or sounds to be natural, then most importantly, let yourself go during sex. Don’t be afraid of what might come out of your mouth. It’s only natural and quite normal to express yourself when something feels so amazing.

For more information, you may want to read my answer to this question: *The guy I'm dating tells me that he gets turned on by dirty talk, but I feel stupid when I try to do it. Any pointers?

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