Sex Advice

Dear Dr. Locker: How do I know if I am pleasing my girlfriend sexually?

Answer from Dr. Locker

Talk with her. Some women are uncomfortable voicing their likes and dislikes in bed since they may think it's embarrassing, or they fear that giving directions could hurt a guy's feelings. So make it known that you want some information, advice or constructive criticism by asking her questions. Since open-ended queries like "What do you like?" might leave her tongue-tied, consider giving her choices, like (even during sex) ask "Should I go faster or slower?" You can also talk about it in a non-sexual moment before the next time you have sex, saying, "I really want to please you in bed and I'm not sure if I am. What can I do differently?" This shows you're truly concerned about her pleasure rather than your ego.

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