Sex Advice

Dear Dr. Locker: Is it OK to fake orgasm with my guy if I really don't think it's going to happen?

Answer from Dr. Locker

When a woman fakes orgasm, she often does it for harmless reasons, like a desire to avoid hurting her partner's feelings. While well-intentioned, it can spell trouble in the long run. She's basically encouraging her guy to do things that don't really turn her on. The longer a man is fooled into thinking he knows how to please his woman, the worse it'll be if she finally does 'fess up. My advice: No matter how tempting it may seem to fake it, just tell your partner straight up "I don't think it's going to happen for me tonight, but I am really enjoying everything anyway... and I am totally happy." If you want an orgasm, show him what turns you on. Show him how to stimulate your clitoris. Just make sure what you're saying is the truth. Your partner might be disappointed, but at least you're giving him a chance to fine-tune his technique so it does float your boat some time in the future.

For more information, you may read my response to these question:

*How can women have orgasms during regular intercourse?

*I have never had an orgasm. I am a 29 year old single woman. Do you have any tips for how to have an orgasm?

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