Sex Advice

Dear Dr. Locker: How do I tell my partner when I'm not in the mood for sex?

Answer from Dr. Locker

Even the most in-sync lovers can end up in this situation, and it’s a tough one since being turned down can be a blow to your lover’s ego. But there are many ways to say “no” that won’t hurt your lover’s feelings. Try “I’m not in the mood now, but what if I wake you up in the morning for a sexy surprise?” By scheduling a “sex date” for a time in the future when you know you’ll be energized, you’re not only giving your partner something to look forward to, but are making it clear that the issue is purely timing rather than a lack of attraction on your end.

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