Sex Advice

Dear Dr. Locker: How can I get over my hang ups about receiving oral sex?

Answer from Dr. Locker

Here are some tips that might help you get past your oral sex worries:

Shower or bathe right before your partner performs oral sex on you. Better yet, shower or bathe together.

Have oral sex at a time and a place that are comfortable to you, never when you feel shy or pressured.

Relax, take deep breaths, and instead of worrying, think about the good feelings that oral sex can bring.

Talk to your lover about it. Ask your lover to stop when he or she gets tired, or to be honest about how much he or she really likes doing it. Being open about it will give you both a chance to voice your feelings about oral sex.

Talk about what types of oral stimulation you might enjoy, so your partner can learn what you might like.

No one should ever feel forced into giving or receiving oral sex. While most people do like it (or learn to get over their hang-ups and then like it) there are some people who just never will like oral sex. If you or your partner falls into that category, you can’t force the issue. Enjoy other aspects of sex if oral sex isn’t for you. But if you do get into oral sex, then you’ll have lots and lots to enjoy!

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