radio

We had so much fun!

This morning, I was on 98.5 FM WNCX Cleveland’s classic rock station (via phone), talking about the Durex Sexual Wellbeing Global Survey findings about orgasms. One of the findings is that only 36% of American women say that they “almost always” orgasm during sex, as opposed to 83% of American men who say that they “almost always” orgasm during sex. It’s more difficult for women to orgasm during sex, because most women need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm, and they don’t always get it during intercourse. I discuss this more in my advice area here, and there I give details about what women can do to have an easier time achieving orgasm during sex. Many women who have a tough time orgasming during sex may enjoy having their orgasm before or after intercourse. That might make their sex life completely content! Yet, interestingly, according to the survey, 58% of people who said that they “usually” achieve orgasm during sex said that they were “content” with the emotional aspect of their sex life, compared with 29% of those who “rarely” orgasm during sex.

Today, I was on WHTU radio in Orlando, FL (on the phone from New York, of course).  The Dixon and Willoughby show challenged couples to have sex for 100 days straight, and they wanted to know my thoughts on that topic. With two books about sex marathons making the media rounds, it has become a hot topic. It’s amazing to me that pop media is pressuring people to have sex so much that this is now being called a new “trend.” Most people get bored and stressed if they feel pressured to have sex every night. Then again, couples report that even if they were not interested in having sex when they started it on a “required” night, once they did it for a few minutes it was pleasurable and they were glad they did it. The lesson is that you don’t need to try to have sex every night, but if your desire is waning, you may want to try having sex anyway and you might enjoy it. In the Sexual Response Cycle, desire is suppose to come before excitement; yet, in reality, it is possible to begin sex without feeling desire — and then your arousal may rise. You wouldn’t want to do that for 100 days, but maybe just once in a while. Give it a try sometime if you’re curious. No pressure.