My Advice column on this site has new sex questions and my answers three times a week.

Here’s a recent Q & A from my Advice column:

Dear Dr. Locker, If I use a vibrator all the time, will it make sex less enjoyable for me?

Dr. Locker Says: Yes and no. If a woman relies on a vibrator in order to orgasm every time, then she may not be able to orgasm any other way — because her body gets so used to the electric stimulation. Will this make sex less enjoyable for you? Well, no, if you and your partner don’t mind that you’ll have to use the vibrator every time you want to orgasm when you are intimate. But if you want to be able to orgasm while you and your partner are being sexual, without having to use a vibrator, then you would most likely need to entirely stop using the vibrator to get over it, and to re-sensitive your body to your hand (or his hand, or rubbing on his body, or oral sex) in order to orgasm. It’s all a matter of what you find most enjoyable.

For many more sex questions and answers, browse or search my Advice column.

Today, I updated the “Questions of the Week” in my SEX ADVICE COLUMN .  Please check it out!

I updated the “Questions of the Week” in my sex advice column today (as I do every Monday, Wednesday, Friday). This week, there are new questions about nipples, sexually transmitted infections, the G-spot for men, and more. To find hundreds of other sex and relationship questions and my answers, be sure to “search” the archives of my sex advice column. Also, from that page you can “submit” your own questions for me to answer. Enjoy!

 (This photo was taken for my book “Sari Says.” Blouse: Pucci. Pants: H&M. Feather Pencil and Toe Rings: Claires. Authentic Egg Chair from the 1960s: Awesome!)

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– How can I keep from queefing during sex?

Sari: There is no proven method. Some people try: new positions, more lubrication, or even Kegel exercises and squats before sex.

– Does size matter—in vaginas?                         

Sari: Compatibility matters for feeling full. Tight vagina? Small penis. Wide vagina? Large penis. Yet many care more about clitoral stimulation. 

– What should I keep in mind if I decide to make an erotic video with my boyfriend?

Sari: Use a wide shot, erotic lighting, and moan seductively. Destroy it immediately afterwards, saving yourself trouble later when you’re famous.

– Does condom size matter?

Sari: Most condoms fit most men. If the width feels tight, try one with an “easy-on” shape, wider base and head.

– What can I do in place of oral sex on him?

Sari: With your head between his legs, lick or lube your hand and masturbate him, while kissing his thighs or stomach.

– Does anal sex have long-term implications?

Sari: Always go slowly; use lubricant; wear condoms for disease protection. Then long-term, it could improve sphincter control and blood flow.

– Is using a female condom as safe as using a male condom?

Sari: They are slightly less effective, because of more risk of slippage. Yet they also protect the labia unlike male condoms.

– How do I handle an uncircumcised penis—literally?

Sari: When erect, you may not notice much difference, because the foreskin retracts automatically. When limp, enjoy playing with the foreskin!

– If I don’t want to kiss a guy immediately after he performs oral sex on me, what should I do?

Sari: Kiss his neck, chest or nipples. Have him roll over for a back massage. Or have oral sex on him!

– How do you tell a guy that you don’t want him to cum inside of you, even with a condom?

Sari: Saying, “I don’t want you to cum inside me,” should work. He might ask why, so be prepared to explain.

– What’s the best way to ask a man to get tested for STDs and HIV?

Sari: “Let’s get tested together,” is a positive way to say it, as a joint activity, benefiting your relationship and health.

– The condom slipped off without me knowing and was left inside me for a while. Is that dangerous?

Sari: You were at risk for diseases and pregnancy. Get checked. Next time, after ejaculation, withdraw condomed-penis when it’s still erect.

– How can I make my guy comfortable with using sex toys together?

Sari: Ease into it with non-threatening products, like sensual lubricants, and discrete vibrators. Demonstrate on yourself, showing him you like it.   

For answers to sex questions in MORE than 20 words, please read the ADVICE section of my website. You can submit your questions for me there, too.