The University of Pennsylvania: Philadelphia, PA

University of Penn Sari Locker

September 1992

Sexuality Educator Holds Workshop on Erotic Ways to Have Safe Sex

by Stacy Sarfatti

Offering free condoms and creative ways to make household items into sex toys, Sexuality Educator Sari Locker presented a workshop last night in Ashurst Lounge on how to engage in safer sex.

Locker explained that the focus of the workshop was not to promote sex.

"This workshop doesn't promote sex. It promotes three options: the option to abstain from sex, the option to have great sex using condoms, [and] alternatives to intercourse, oral sex, or anal sex that are still sexy," said Locker, a masters candidate in Human Sexuality Education.

Throughout the workshop Locker emphasized the importance of condoms, labeling them as essential for the prevention of sexually transmitted diseases.

"It doesn't matter who you have sex with, gay or straight or bisexual. It matters how you have sex," she said. "If you have to physically remove someone [from the room] because they don't want to use a condom, then do it."

Unveiling an assortment of condoms including colored, flavored, ribbed and glow-in-the-dark condoms, Locker suggested a variety of methods to make protected sex more enjoyable.

"How about if you play 'salesman selling condom' and 'person buying condom?' " she said. She emphasized the versatility of the condom.

"It's fun to practice putting [them] on bananas, on zucchini," Locker said.

However, Locker was quick to recognize that not all college-age students select to engage actively in sexual activity.

"It's a healthy, positive choice to abstain from sex," she said, putting forth a variety of alternatives to intercourse. "You can kiss, you can touch, you can dance together, you can strip for each other, or you can even just hold hands and watch the sunset together. And all those things are erotic, all those things are sexy, and all those things are 100 percent safe sex."

Drawing laughs and giggles from the audience, Locker presented a number of everyday objects, such as honey and a razor, and suggested how they might be used for more than their intended purpose.

The reaction of College freshman Kim Vesey, however, demonstrated that this option does not appeal to quite everyone.

"The only thing I'd use here are condoms. The other things are too kinky," she said.

But Wharton freshman Greg Share said he'd keep his options open.

"I have sex with a condom. As to the sexual games she referred to, maybe I'll keep them in mind," Share said.

And students said they appreciated Locker's tips about safe sex.

"It answered a lot of questions that I had in my mind, just about AIDS," said College freshman Kirk Hauptmann. "You hear a lot of rumors about AIDS, and a lot of them were cleared up tonight."

Sporting a heart-shaped pin with the words "Love me, love my condom," Locker stessed the importance of using a prophylactic during sexual activity to guard against the chance of contracting AIDS.

"The only way to prevent AIDS is to use condoms," she said. "I teach these students that they should never take the option of having unprotected sex. I beg you to not just hear the words that I'm saying, but use condoms every time."

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