Sex Advice

Dear Dr. Locker: How can I learn to give good oral sex?

Answer from Dr. Locker

You should be able to learn any sexual technique from talking about it with your partner and experimenting together. Ask your partner what he or she likes. Then if you want, you can try it while he or she coaches you. Some people think that watching porn will help them see what various sexual techniques look like, but if you do, I caution you: Those are “sexual performers” and not everything they do looks the same in real life. You may learn a few things from sex advice books. Yet, ultimately, it is always better to learn from a partner, especially because every person’s pleasure is different.

For more about oral sex, check out my responses to these questions:

*When I perform oral sex on a man, I don't know what to do with him semen. Spit, swallow? How? Why?

*My boyfriend is disgusted with the idea of giving oral sex to me. What can I do to get him to give me oral sex?

*How can I get over my hang ups about receiving oral sex?

*Do women like to be fingered in the vagina when oral sex is being performed on them?

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