Sex Advice

Dear Dr. Locker: I am overweight and self-conscious about having someone I am dating see me naked. Is there anything I can do to alleviate my anxiety?

Answer from Dr. Locker

Many people who are overweight find that starting a workout programs helps boost their self-image—and no, you don’t have to wait weeks or months until the pounds start coming off. Your outlook will improve almost instantly, since just knowing you’re making an effort can have a magical effect on your mindset. You can also battle self-consciousness by shifting your focus away from your flaws and toward parts of your body that you do like. All people have something they’re proud of, whether that’s toned arms, killer legs, or a sexy smile. Say out loud all of the things you love about your body and why (e.g., “I love the color of my eyes because they’re dark and mysterious.”). As for the big night, know it’s fine to work within your comfort zone and cheat a little so you don’t feel too exposed. Rather than being completely naked, try wearing a silk nightie or lighting some candles rather than keeping the lights on. Honestly, most people would probably be so excited that your flaws wouldn’t even register on their radar!

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