Sex Advice

Dear Dr. Locker: I've always heard people say that you should never sleep with someone on the first date and at least wait until date #3. If you know you like each other, what's so great about waiting? Does it make the sex better?

Answer from Dr. Locker

The passion of hot sex on a first date can be an incredible feeling for some people. Still, many find there are benefits to taking things slowly. One obvious one is that by waiting, you get to spend time together and figure out if this is someone you’d like to date seriously. Sex, in turn, feels more meaningful and safer since you know this person cares about you. In a recent survey, couples who’d held off on having intercourse for at least three months reported more satisfaction with their sex lives than those who had sex earlier. If you choose to have sex on a first date, that’s your prerogative; however, you should know that it will rarely turn into a serious relationship. According to research conducted at the University of Chicago, only 10 percent of couples who have sex during their first month of dating end up marrying. Forty-seven percent of those who waited a year or more to have sex got married. So it’s all about what you’re looking for out of your sex life… and your relationships.

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