sexual orientation

Sexual Health Websites for Teenagers (collected by Sari Locker, Ph.D.)

Here’s my list of great sexual health websites for teenagers:

How to talk to your parents about sex; Deciding about sex:

https://www.girlshealth.gov/body/sexuality/talkparents.html

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/teens/sex/am-i-ready

Birth Control Information:

https://www.bedsider.org/methods

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control

Emergency Contraception:

https://www.bedsider.org/methods/emergency_contraception#costs_tab

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/morning-after-pill-emergency-contraception

STIs, STDs, HIV/AIDS, Safer Sex and Testing:

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/stds-hiv-safer-sex

https://www.cdc.gov/std/healthcomm/fact_sheets.htm

Consent Information:

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/teens/relationships/consent-and-rape

References for GLBTQ Teens:

https://www.cdc.gov/lgbthealth/youth-resources.htm

Planned Parenthood Info for Teens:

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/teens

How to Put on a Condom:

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control/condom/how-to-put-a-condom-on

Sexuality Health Clinics in NYC (free or low cost, no parental permission)

www.ppnyc.org

https://www1.nyc.gov/assets/doh/downloads/pdf/clinic/iud-provider-list.pdf

https://www1.nyc.gov/site/doh/health/health-topics/teen-home.page

Also, please see my list of website for parents of teens using the link in the box below:

Sexual Health Websites for Parents of Teenagers

Celebrate love and equality by attending The Great Nationwide Kiss-In.

On Saturday, August 15 at 2pm EST/ 11am PT, the “Great Nationwide Kiss-In” will occur, as people all around the country will assemble in designated public locations and kiss. 

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In the background of an international CNN broadcast about the bankruptcy of Lehman Brothers, two men (who were sent by the Howard Stern show) pretended to kiss and fondle each other. One of the men lifted his shirt while the other pretended to lick his chest. They never actually made contact, so it was obvious that it was a stunt.  It made me wonder: If two women had been playing this prank, particularly for Howard Stern, wouldn’t they have actually had mouth-mouth contact? Women kiss for Howard all the time. This helps illustrate that in our society sometimes “straight” men make fun of being gay when they want attention; whereas women may actually experiment with same-gender kissing for attention. It was kinda funny, though… 

Many terms have surfaced in the last few years to rename bisexuality and the fluidity of sexual orientation.  

On CNN, when we discussed “I Kissed A Girl (and Liked It),” as requested by the producer and host, I also began to discuss various words that are slang for “bisexual.” Keep in mind that some of these are considered offensive by some people in the GLBT community, and you should not try to label other people using these terms. Yet, in the spirit of keeping up with the lingo, here are additions for the sex slang glossary: 

• Fauxmosexual: Man or woman who has the appearance of the stereotype of a gay man or lesbian woman, but is heterosexual.
• Bi-curious:  Man or woman who is about a “one” on the Kinsey scale. He or she is primarily heterosexual, but occasionally is sexual with someone of the same gender, or at the very least fantasizes about the same gender. He or she does not completely identify as a bisexual.
• Heteroflexible:  Sometimes synonymous with bi-curious (above). Often refers to 17-21 year old girls and women who kiss another girl or woman in front of a group of guys to turn them on.
• Dance Floor Lesbian: Like heteroflexible, but only touches, kisses, makes out with other women sometimes, particularly in public.
• BUG, Bisexual Until Graduation: Man or woman who is sexual with both genders during college. Recently, this term has begun to also be used for high school students.
• LUG, Lesbian Until Graduation: Woman who is exclusively sexual with women during college. Recently, this term has begun to also be used for high school students.
• GUG, Gay Until Graduation: Man who is exclusively sexual with men during college. Lesser used term than BUG or LUG.

Define yourself; don’t define yourself. But no matter what, be true to and for yourself.

Posted by Dr. Sari Locker

The concept of a fluid sexual orientation has been around for decades.

On CNN today, we also discussed bisexuality. It is a commonly accepted idea in sexology that people are not always 100% homosexual or 100% heterosexual. In fact, sixty years ago, Alfred Kinsey conceptualized this in his landmark 1948 book Sexual Behavior in the Human Male where he presented his scale of sexual orientation. Kinsey informed us to not characterize people as either gay or straight, but rather as individuals who have certain amounts of heterosexual and homosexual experiences, thoughts, fantasies, attractions and desires. He also explained that sexual orientation should take into account past, present, and future ideas about one’s sexuality (not just behaviors), and that it may evolve or change throughout one’s life. The Kinsey Scale for Sexual Orientation is still the most used source for distinguishing different sexual orientations by describing the range of possibilities. The scale goes from 0 “exclusively heterosexual” to 6 “exclusively homosexual,” with bisexual at 3. Most people would not fit as either a 0 or 6, because most people have at least some occasional fantasies about both genders. A woman who has sex with her boyfriend, but also has fantasies about girls and kissed a girl (“and liked it” as Katy Perry sings) would probably be a 1 on the Kinsey Scale.

The Kinsey Scale for Sexual Orientation, Scanned from my first edition copy: Kinsey, A., Pomeroy, W., Martin, C.. (1948) Sexual Behavior in the Human Male. Philadelphia, PA: W. B. Saunders.

0- Exclusively heterosexual with no homosexual

1- Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual

2- Predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual

3- Equally heterosexual and homosexual

4- Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual

5- Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual

6- Exclusively homosexual

 Posted by: Dr. Sari Locker