Posts Tagged ‘orgasm during sex’

My Advice column on this site has new sex questions and my answers three times a week.

Here’s a recent Q & A from my Advice column:

Dear Dr. Locker, If I use a vibrator all the time, will it make sex less enjoyable for me?

Dr. Locker Says: Yes and no. If a woman relies on a vibrator in order to orgasm every time, then she may not be able to orgasm any other way — because her body gets so used to the electric stimulation. Will this make sex less enjoyable for you? Well, no, if you and your partner don’t mind that you’ll have to use the vibrator every time you want to orgasm when you are intimate. But if you want to be able to orgasm while you and your partner are being sexual, without having to use a vibrator, then you would most likely need to entirely stop using the vibrator to get over it, and to re-sensitive your body to your hand (or his hand, or rubbing on his body, or oral sex) in order to orgasm. It’s all a matter of what you find most enjoyable.

For many more sex questions and answers, browse or search my Advice column.

I get many questions about women’s orgasms… How can a woman have an orgasm during sex? What does an orgasm feel like? How long does an orgasm last? How can a guy tell if a woman has had an orgasm, or if she is faking orgasm? Can all women have orgasms? How can a woman orgasm for the first time? To find this info on my site, check out these links.

On my “Articles” page, my article about The Female Orgasm.

From my “Advice” page, my answer to this question: How can women have orgasms during “regular” intercourse?

Also, my answer to this questison from my advice column: I have never had an orgasm. I am a 29 year old single woman. Do you have any tips for how to have an orgasm?

You can also search the “Orgasm” section of my “Advice” page for even more questions and my answers. Happy orgasms to all!

This morning, I was on 98.5 FM WNCX Cleveland’s classic rock station (via phone), talking about the Durex Sexual Wellbeing Global Survey findings about orgasms. One of the findings is that only 36% of American women say that they “almost always” orgasm during sex, as opposed to 83% of American men who say that they “almost always” orgasm during sex. It’s more difficult for women to orgasm during sex, because most women need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm, and they don’t always get it during intercourse. I discuss this more in my advice area here, and there I give details about what women can do to have an easier time achieving orgasm during sex. Many women who have a tough time orgasming during sex may enjoy having their orgasm before or after intercourse. That might make their sex life completely content! Yet, interestingly, according to the survey, 58% of people who said that they “usually” achieve orgasm during sex said that they were “content” with the emotional aspect of their sex life, compared with 29% of those who “rarely” orgasm during sex.